Saying Goody-Bye To The Noise

I've been wanting to write this post for a couple of weeks now and finally was able to put my thoughts into words. You may have noticed recently that I have been very quiet on the social media scene. And there is good reason why I have decided to say good-bye to the noise and distractions. 

My normal routine upon waking would consist of opening my eye's, giving my body a good stretch and within minutes of rising I would already be "plugged in" for the remainder of the day. It would start with checking my emails before I even brushed my teeth, then right onto all my social media platforms. I was exhausted before I even got out of bed. Well, let me re-phrase, mentally exhausted... By the time I was my pouring my coffee, the thoughts were already filling my head of how my business nor I was just not good enough. Think about that with me for a minute, within moments of starting my day, I was already setting myself up for failure with these negative thoughts about myself and my business. Even typing that out makes me feel such a sadness. I just want to go back in time and give myself a big hug and say out loud, "Stop listening to all the noise." 

As time went on, I eventually became my own worse critic. Somewhere on this journey, I started to believe that faster was better, that quantity over quality was favored, that taking on work that did not align with my business model was "OK" for the time being because at least I was "working." Then enter the burn-out, the moment when I not only took on to much work for one person, but work that was no longer satisfying my wallet or my heart. I was lost and so consumed by the noise, I didn't even realize it. 

A couple of weeks ago, I woke up and realized that I left my phone in my office. So instead of starting my morning off with checking emails and social media, I laid in bed and went over my plans for the day. I then proceeded to slowly rise, brush my teeth, go outside with my dogs, check on the garden, make a cup of coffee and did all this without the noise. The noise that I would normally already have within minutes of waking. This experience gave me a taste for something I had been yearning for but had no idea how to get there. Was I indeed addicted to the noise that I was now despising?  I no longer wanted to feel inadequate because of who I am "friends" with or who shares my work. I wanted to break free from the labels we get based upon the number of likes, friends, shares, collaborations, partnerships, shout-outs and true high-school feeling clique's. No thanks! No more! I didn't want to be sold another online course on how to gain more followers. I was not interested in buying into someone else's idea of pay me hundreds of dollars and I will make you an over-night success. Noise, it was all noise and it was crowding my mind, taking up valuable space. Space that I wanted to save for my clients, for my work, for myself. 

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I now have a commitment to myself that when the noise starts to take up to much of my time, I close down the laptop and disconnect for a short while. And when I say disconnect, I do not mean that I walk away from my work obligations, I actually get busy with-in my work. I dive into creating something fabulous and unique for one of my Bride's or put some writing time into my blog. Anything that helps me ease away from the pressure's of keeping up is medicine for my soul. I am looking for true and authentic connections, not one's that are based on what I can do for you or vice versa. 

And while I really do love what some of my social media outlets have done for my business, I now approach it in a very different manner. I am so appreciative for what it has brought me thus far, like some really amazing business opportunities and honest friendships. These are the things that keep the noise away, my clients, my friendships, my family, they are what is truly important in my life. I will continue to be present online but I will close it down when the first feelings of the pressure start to seep in. I am a work in progress as we all are and this is my attempt at being the best possible version of Malissa. 

And as far as my phone... It's best left in the other room at night. I really am enjoying the quiet start to my days. 

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Wedding Welcome Gifts? YES!

The wedding countdown is on and you are crossing items off your to-do list like a true superstar. You have a dozen different alerts set on your phone for all those important reminders. Everything is nicely falling into place at this point. And just as you think you got this... Wedding planning is easy breezy, you take a scroll through Pinterest and see the one pin that throws you into panic. You realize may have overlooked one very important item, the welcome gift!  

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It seems to me like the welcome gift is making a huge come back. Whether its a custom design based on the theme of the wedding or a simple gift box filled with sweets and treats that you both love, the thoughtfulness of the welcome gift will go a long way with your guests. 

Now what to include?

I often get asked this question daily and the answer is very simple... Anything that you would enjoy yourself! I would advise choosing a few items that are your favorite snacks as well as your partners. Do you like sweet but your partner likes savory? What is your go-to snack while sitting on the couch with a glass of wine and watching the new season of The Bachelorette?(Dark Chocolate Sea Salt Caramels For Me!) With deciding on a few well thought-out snack items, you're already half way done! Love the snack but not the packaging? Head over to my Pinterest board where you will find lots of inspiration for alternate packaging idea's here - That's Darlin Pinterest

Adding drinks will always be on a case by case basis when I'm designing welcome gifts. There are a few factors to keep in mind when deciding to add them or not. Things to think about:

  • Keep in mind the drink will be served room temperature.

  • Do you want to include only one drink per gift box?

  • The heavier the drink the sturdier box you will need to source.

  • Alcohol versus non-alcoholic drinks.

  • Remember to include drinking straws and or a bottle opener if needed.

Lastly, it can be fun to include an itinerary with the weekends events listing the time's and locations. This lets your guests know all the plans you have arranged for them. Whether it be the welcome dinner or the after wedding brunch, make sure to keep them informed! If you do not have any other events planned besides the main one (The Wedding!), a thoughtful thank you letter is a nice touch. Saying Thank You with a note to your guests will leave them feeling loved and that their attendance is truly appreciated.

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The only thing left to do is decide gift box or gift bag. If you are using any items that are fragile or breakable, I highly suggest a sturdy gift box. You can then choose filler and ribbon that coordinate with the color palette of your wedding. With a gift bag, you can still tie it closed with ribbon and add a gift tag that says, "Welcome" or maybe "The Smiths". 

Whether you keep it simple or go with a custom and extravagant design, it will absolutely leave a loving impact on your friends and family. If you would like to inquire about working with me on your custom welcome gifts, you can do so here - Let's Chat! 

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