Saying Goody-Bye To The Noise

I've been wanting to write this post for a couple of weeks now and finally was able to put my thoughts into words. You may have noticed recently that I have been very quiet on the social media scene. And there is good reason why I have decided to say good-bye to the noise and distractions. 

My normal routine upon waking would consist of opening my eye's, giving my body a good stretch and within minutes of rising I would already be "plugged in" for the remainder of the day. It would start with checking my emails before I even brushed my teeth, then right onto all my social media platforms. I was exhausted before I even got out of bed. Well, let me re-phrase, mentally exhausted... By the time I was my pouring my coffee, the thoughts were already filling my head of how my business nor I was just not good enough. Think about that with me for a minute, within moments of starting my day, I was already setting myself up for failure with these negative thoughts about myself and my business. Even typing that out makes me feel such a sadness. I just want to go back in time and give myself a big hug and say out loud, "Stop listening to all the noise." 

As time went on, I eventually became my own worse critic. Somewhere on this journey, I started to believe that faster was better, that quantity over quality was favored, that taking on work that did not align with my business model was "OK" for the time being because at least I was "working." Then enter the burn-out, the moment when I not only took on to much work for one person, but work that was no longer satisfying my wallet or my heart. I was lost and so consumed by the noise, I didn't even realize it. 

A couple of weeks ago, I woke up and realized that I left my phone in my office. So instead of starting my morning off with checking emails and social media, I laid in bed and went over my plans for the day. I then proceeded to slowly rise, brush my teeth, go outside with my dogs, check on the garden, make a cup of coffee and did all this without the noise. The noise that I would normally already have within minutes of waking. This experience gave me a taste for something I had been yearning for but had no idea how to get there. Was I indeed addicted to the noise that I was now despising?  I no longer wanted to feel inadequate because of who I am "friends" with or who shares my work. I wanted to break free from the labels we get based upon the number of likes, friends, shares, collaborations, partnerships, shout-outs and true high-school feeling clique's. No thanks! No more! I didn't want to be sold another online course on how to gain more followers. I was not interested in buying into someone else's idea of pay me hundreds of dollars and I will make you an over-night success. Noise, it was all noise and it was crowding my mind, taking up valuable space. Space that I wanted to save for my clients, for my work, for myself. 

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I now have a commitment to myself that when the noise starts to take up to much of my time, I close down the laptop and disconnect for a short while. And when I say disconnect, I do not mean that I walk away from my work obligations, I actually get busy with-in my work. I dive into creating something fabulous and unique for one of my Bride's or put some writing time into my blog. Anything that helps me ease away from the pressure's of keeping up is medicine for my soul. I am looking for true and authentic connections, not one's that are based on what I can do for you or vice versa. 

And while I really do love what some of my social media outlets have done for my business, I now approach it in a very different manner. I am so appreciative for what it has brought me thus far, like some really amazing business opportunities and honest friendships. These are the things that keep the noise away, my clients, my friendships, my family, they are what is truly important in my life. I will continue to be present online but I will close it down when the first feelings of the pressure start to seep in. I am a work in progress as we all are and this is my attempt at being the best possible version of Malissa. 

And as far as my phone... It's best left in the other room at night. I really am enjoying the quiet start to my days. 

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please allow me to introduce myself

I've re-written this post probably a dozen times. I would type out a few paragraphs followed immediately by hitting the delete button until the entire page was cleared to only start over again and then again and again. Aaaahhhhh the pressure of my first official post! Then I thought, I'm just gonna go with it. Let's try that approach and see how it turns out. So here it is, me just going with it.

the girl behind the gift box

Being this is my very first post and most of you may not know anything about me or my business yet, this would be the perfect place for us to get acquainted. Hello! My name is Malissa, the creative heart and soul behind That's Darlin'.

Do you have that one friend, the one that ALWAYS gives the greatest gifts? The one that knows exactly what to give and makes it look seemingly easy? Well... I'm THAT girl, (Hi!) Since I can remember, I have had a love for all things pertaining to gift giving. Ribbons, tags, tissue paper, baskets, boxes, bows, you name it, I probably own it. But I have a secret I want to share with you. The art of gift giving is not about the items you choose, but the love, thought and presentation you put into it. How do I know this? Years and years of hearing the same responses over again and again, "This looks so beautiful I don't want to open it." or "I can't believe you spent this much time on my gift." A year later, they may not remember the products you gave them, but I can promise they will remember the thoughtfulness, the love and the way it made them feel. That my friends is the secret behind the gift. 

For me, this is an important part of my branding, it is the driving force behind this business. I want each recipient to feel that their gift was personally designed just for them. Whether it's a Bride wanting to say "Thank You" to her bridal party in a lovingly way or a business looking to send a gift to their newly signed clients, each has its own story, its own feeling, that I will convey on your behalf through the gifting process. 

Rewind to a couple of months ago - I had a meeting with Dana, the creative story teller behind Between Sleep and Awake. We spent the morning chatting about my passion for this business and why it's so much more than pretty items in a box. We both decided that working on a brand movement video would be the best option to convey the emotion and let everyone see the heart that is behind this brand. I was so nervous to take on this project, as it made me feel that I needed to be vulnerable and let my guard down. As much as I love using Instagram as a form of my marketing, it was now time for everyone to get to know more about the girl behind the gift boxes. And why this business is so much more than a product. 

So... Without further ado, please enjoy the final product of what I consider to be my heart and soul on screen. To me, this is everything... 

PS: Thank you Dana for helping me share this vision with the world. It is my greatest accomplishment thus far.

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