HOW DO YOU DEFINE SUCCESS?

For the past year, I've had a running list of idea's that I knew I wanted to blog about, eventually... The one topic that kept coming up for me was how I define success, what does being successful look like? I feel like the success talk is much like the money talk, no one wants to have it. Success should not be something we are embarrassed about, hide from or even feel the need to exaggerate. Your success and victories should be celebrated no matter how small they may seem. Here are a few ways I learned to embrace the process of accepting my own successes. 

IT'S NOT A NUMBERS GAME

I've been there, I've done it, I'm guilty as charged. I have compared away, whether its the number of followers they have, number of blog posts, amount of times they have been published, number of likes, numbers, numbers, numbers! I thought in order for me to be/feel successful, my numbers needed to be off the charts, that the amount of followers would equate to the amount of work I received. #FALSE

Yes, of course as my following grows I do tend to feel encouraged and the amount of likes I receive may shift from day to day. But I can now attest to the theory, that the amount of followers equals the amount of work I receive is false. (At least for me this is true) Hand raised high; I am busy, I sometimes receive more inquiries that I can answer in a promptly time frame, I have enough work for my two hands and small studio space can handle at the moment. Numbers no longer control my image of success. Instead, the time and care I can offer each client is how I define my success. When a client sends me a message reassuring me that I am meant to do this, that is what makes me feel successful. 

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FORWARD IS A MOTION

Don't get me wrong, yes I have semi-mastered the non-numbers game of thought but that doesn't mean I still fall into the comparison game from time to time. I am only human after all, and definitely not perfect. Gauging your success on someone's portrayal of their success is a negative place to let yourself drift into. Here are some tips for when the self-destructing starts to step in. 

  • GET BUSY! This is when you need to dive even further into your own situation. Recognize your journey is exactly that, YOURS. 
  • STAY FOCUSED on you and that special gift you are offering to the world. What keeps you unique? What are you offering to your clients and customers that is needed? Reminding yourself why you began can jump start the motivation train. 
  • SHOUT IT OUT to everyone, letting them know who you are and what your business has to offer. Compose an email and send it other's within your industry introducing yourself. Get out from behind the computer and meet other creatives. Join a meet up, one where you can chat among other like-minded individuals. If you are looking to find one in your area you can check out Rising Tide Society, to locate one near your home town. 
  • KEEP MOVING, even one small step at a time. Because in the end, forward is forward no matter how big of a jump or little a step. Forward keeps the energy going. 
  • BE YOUR OWN BIGGEST FAN. Everyone loves a cheerleader, be the best at it! 
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In the end, we will all have different definitions of success. For some, success may very well be a certain number of followers, while the next may say it's the amount of inquiries they receive in a single day. For me, success is the end result of each gift design I hand over to my clients and customers. Success is the thoughtful email they send to me afterwards. Success is the feeling a gift I designed gives someone who is preparing to start chemotherapy or the Bride that needed help with saying Thank You to her best friends. Success to me will always be a feeling and not a number. 

XO-

Malissa

Wedding Welcome Gifts? YES!

The wedding countdown is on and you are crossing items off your to-do list like a true superstar. You have a dozen different alerts set on your phone for all those important reminders. Everything is nicely falling into place at this point. And just as you think you got this... Wedding planning is easy breezy, you take a scroll through Pinterest and see the one pin that throws you into panic. You realize may have overlooked one very important item, the welcome gift!  

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It seems to me like the welcome gift is making a huge come back. Whether its a custom design based on the theme of the wedding or a simple gift box filled with sweets and treats that you both love, the thoughtfulness of the welcome gift will go a long way with your guests. 

Now what to include?

I often get asked this question daily and the answer is very simple... Anything that you would enjoy yourself! I would advise choosing a few items that are your favorite snacks as well as your partners. Do you like sweet but your partner likes savory? What is your go-to snack while sitting on the couch with a glass of wine and watching the new season of The Bachelorette?(Dark Chocolate Sea Salt Caramels For Me!) With deciding on a few well thought-out snack items, you're already half way done! Love the snack but not the packaging? Head over to my Pinterest board where you will find lots of inspiration for alternate packaging idea's here - That's Darlin Pinterest

Adding drinks will always be on a case by case basis when I'm designing welcome gifts. There are a few factors to keep in mind when deciding to add them or not. Things to think about:

  • Keep in mind the drink will be served room temperature.

  • Do you want to include only one drink per gift box?

  • The heavier the drink the sturdier box you will need to source.

  • Alcohol versus non-alcoholic drinks.

  • Remember to include drinking straws and or a bottle opener if needed.

Lastly, it can be fun to include an itinerary with the weekends events listing the time's and locations. This lets your guests know all the plans you have arranged for them. Whether it be the welcome dinner or the after wedding brunch, make sure to keep them informed! If you do not have any other events planned besides the main one (The Wedding!), a thoughtful thank you letter is a nice touch. Saying Thank You with a note to your guests will leave them feeling loved and that their attendance is truly appreciated.

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The only thing left to do is decide gift box or gift bag. If you are using any items that are fragile or breakable, I highly suggest a sturdy gift box. You can then choose filler and ribbon that coordinate with the color palette of your wedding. With a gift bag, you can still tie it closed with ribbon and add a gift tag that says, "Welcome" or maybe "The Smiths". 

Whether you keep it simple or go with a custom and extravagant design, it will absolutely leave a loving impact on your friends and family. If you would like to inquire about working with me on your custom welcome gifts, you can do so here - Let's Chat! 

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